Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Convenient Communication. When is Texting and E-Mail Just Not Enough? And Winner!!
What is it about people today? Me, You, Them. What is it that makes us so distant from each other even though we say we are "close". Texting is the new "close and personal". We do it because it is easier. Takes less time. We can multi-task. E-mail is easier because it doesn't talk back and we can keep things quick. I get it. I totally do. E-mail, text, facebook walls...all of these things are a part of my daily life. I text with friends often...sharing jokes, sending random thoughts, asking questions, making plans and just connecting! But when is it too much? When it is just time to pick up the phone and actually talk?
I'm okay with text, e-mail, and facebook being a main source of communication with my friends. It certainly makes things easier and it allows busy people, who might otherwise not have the time to connect, the opportunity to pass jokes, make plans, and share moments of their days with people they love. These forms of communication work especially well with new friends or people who we don't know on a too terribly personal level.
All this "easy communicating" is fine but there comes a point where I think we just need to pick up the phone and have a conversation with the people that we call "friend" and "family". I've done it. Someone calls, I shoot them voicemail and then I respond later with text. Easy peezy! If they were just calling to "chat", I might even forget to call back because I figure that they will understand that I got busy or didn't find time. When does this become rude? Inappropriate? When does this convenient responding finally send the message to someone that "You don't matter enough" or "I have more important things to spend my time on"?
This convenience is all fine if we want convenient relationships with people. This isn't enough for me with certain people in my life. This "convenient and distant" type of relationship is fine with a lot of people but when someone that I call a close friend or family can't make the effort or break free from their busy schedule (which is probably not that busy), and stretch themselves out of their safe comfort zone to return a call every once in awhile, it is hurtful in a sense. It seems rude. Sometimes we just need to pick up the phone and talk with our voice, not our thumbs.
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