Monday, January 14, 2013

Saying YES to Life. Saying YES to Detours.



Yes.
An affirmative answer or decision.
Yes.
Such a simple three letter word.  But such a powerful one.  Saying yes means we are embracing something.  We are accepting it.  We are in agreement.  Yes.  The word just comes sometimes without even thinking about it.  Like when I'm listening to a message or reading a section in a book that resonates with me on a deep level...Yes.  Or it came today when I was reading my friend Petra's blog (as it often does with her blog).  Yes, yes, yes...those words came to me as I read about her travels and resolutions.  I nodded in understanding when I read about her intentions for life.  Yes.  The word came and I didn't even realize that the title of her post was "Yes".  

Since the new year, I've definitely been in Yes Mode.  Saying YES to living.  Saying YES to life as it comes my way even when it scares me.  Even when I'm led to take a detour of sorts.  After all, it is the detours in life (literal and figurative) that take us in ways we never would have gone before.

How many of us have been driving along on our normal routes, eyes glazed over because we've done it so many times....not noticing much around us...just doing what we do day in an day out, only to be stopped in our tracks by the orange construction signs and roadblocks.  Detour.  At first we are frustrated.  Thoughts of being late or inconvenienced cross our mind.  But in the end we get to our destination.  And you know, so many times, during my detour, I've noticed things I'd never seen before if I'm relaxed enough to go with the flow and look around instead of grumble and have a scowl on my face.  I've been forced to drive through neighborhoods or down streets that are completely new to me.  Many times it proves to be just a drive but sometimes it opens my eyes to something else that ends up changing my perspective or gives me a new idea about something else.  Sometimes those detours end up giving me ideas for other things that I might not have thought of.  I might notice a small business that I hadn't known about before, or a section of neighborhood with beautiful homes, a path that I had no idea I could have been running on...so much.  In the end, I'm usually glad for the detour in some way.  It woke me up.  Got me out of my daily grind and forced me to do something new even if it meant that I was only driving down a street I'd never been on before.

Detours and saying YES is all about where I'm at today.  Monday, January 14th.  I'm saying yes to life as it comes.  Finally, the things I've been telling myself over the last few years are sinking in when it comes to really owning up to the goals I set.  Going easier on myself, not taking myself too seriously, enjoying running just for running, taking chances and dreaming big, getting rid of guilt, training smart...these things (that Petra also mentions in her blog..another reason I LOVE)...I'm getting the hang of these things more than I ever have before.  And not running the past few days really hasn't been all that bad.

I've said from the beginning of this training cycle that my main goal was to run happy and enjoy the process.  Do I have goals?  Yes.  But is it the actual marathon race time that determines the success of this training?  No, absolutely not.  This training for me is about having something in my life to keep me driven and working towards being my best self.  It is about finding peace and clarity through running during a time where we are in the process of "Daring Greatly" with our adventure move to North Carolina for a bit.  So, from the get go, my goal has been to be SMART and listen to my body.  And I'm happy to say that I'm doing that.  Even when it means that being smart means taking that DETOUR.

Last week, my hamstring started shouting at me that it just wasn't ready to run.  So since then, my days have involved lots of rolling, stretching, icing, epsom salt baths, KTape, swimming, pool running, cycling, and positive thinking.  It has been such a freedom this time around to just accept this detour and enjoy the process that it leads to. To not take this training thing and myself too seriously. In the past, things would have been so different.  I would have seen this setback in such a different light.  Glad for the perspective shift and the peace that has come with the new year.

I'm glad for posts like Petra's that make me want to say YES to Life AS IT COMES...not necessarily as I WANT it to come. Even though a lot of it just as I want.  And I'm happy.

 I'm saying YES to the detours in life.  Because when we really stop to think about it, the detours ARE life.  The Detours are where some of the greatest living and lessons come from.  


This was a goal for myself written in my journal from many months ago.

What's something you are saying "YES" to in your life right now?  Or a detour you can say "YES" to instead of seeing as an inconvenience?  

Amanda

37 comments:

  1. Amanda! Nobody inspired my post more than you did! So thank you. Yes can be so hard. So scary! Just to go with something? Not to fight it? But if you let go of fear (usually mired in the past) and just leap - you will find amazing things. I am so touched that I inspired you because it is such a mutual process. I need bloggers and posters like you (and your mom!) to remind me of what matters and where I'm heading. Like you - I'm slowly learning to roll with the injury / slowdown punches when / if they come. And like you I believe that detours are what make our life interesting. Big hugs my friend!

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    1. So hard not to fight the things that come up unexpectedly. Fear..this has been a big one for me. Fear and guilt...letting go. Thanks for you!

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  2. I found myself saying YES! I remember you saying a while ago to say yes to life more. You are well on your way. Thank God for the detours... thank GOD!!!

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    1. Yes, Thank God! Indeed. The Detours have been the best things once we can look back and see what they were all about.

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  3. I am so glad you are taking the time to take care of your body!

    "I'm saying YES to the detours in life. Because when we really stop to think about it, the detours ARE life." <--- Yes. This is the truth. Life is nothing but a series of predictable things as well as detours and unplanned situations. It is good when we can just enjoy it for that- the unexpected and the expected, both. Still learning the secret to that. I think it starts with gratitude, something you have a firm grasp on :)

    Hope you have a great week, my friend.

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    1. Thanks Raina. I can always have a better grasp on gratitude. But I do agree that it is KEY. Thanks for encouraging me in taking care of my body...You've been a model for this. I've thought about your Boston training a lot through this little bump.

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  4. This is a great, well written post, that made me think alot. One of my goals for 2013 is to reconnect with myself, try new things, dont let endurance sports consume me. It is tough, because these sports can suck you into the deep end and instead of going with the current, you fight and struggle to get to where you think you should be, not where you were intended to be. That probably doesnt make sense, but it does to me. Great post and thanks for sharing

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    1. Totally makes sense! From one endurance athlete to another...I get this! Thanks for your great comment as always. :) Glad this makes you think.

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  5. I try to kind of live by this, bc my natural state is pretty timid and afraid to try new things. I know that's not what comes across in my blog, but that's bc my blog is mostly recounting my fight AGAINST old Kate. Lol. Not yes to everything, but when I'm tempted to say no to something because I'm AFRAID of it, that's when I try to say yes.

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    1. Good to hear from you Kate! I hear you on this. I tend to say no to lots of things that are scary or out of my comfort zone so I'm working on this too.

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  6. I think I gotta say "Yes" more often to change - I can be a big baby about change and I can throw an inner tantrum when a detour hits. You bring up some good perspectives - I'll try better to employ! Thanks!

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    1. So hard to do sometimes when we have an idea of something else we want to happen. Sometimes life has a different agenda. :)

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  7. Last year, was the injury year for me. So, I'm saying yes to being positive about a setback no matter what it is. It's hard...believe you me. I may even go negative nancy for about an hour before I take a deep breath.

    My biggest detour right now is moving to England and doing my first marathon (with Petra...I hope).

    But one day I took a detour home from work, because traffic was weird and the light sucked at this one intersection. That is now my fastest way to get home. I also get to see where I bike sometimes from above.

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    1. Moving to Englad! This is huge. Good luck to you. And exciting that you get to meet Petra.

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  8. What a great/inspirational post!! The detour thing really hit me because I'm not always a fan!!! I love your way of looking at it - new sites, businesses, scenery - whatever!!! I need to learn to say YES and take it all in!!!

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    1. Thanks Kim. You seem to be doing pretty darn good with this injury "detour". :)

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  9. Yet another great post from you, Amanda! I love the detour analogy and can so relate to being in a rut with the places I drive to every day and suddenly encountering something new and inspiring when I'm forced into a different route. And, wow, I have certainly had some detours in LIFE that were unexpected, unplanned and made me very unhappy at the time. However, I am who I am today because of those detours and I wouldn't change that for anything.

    I'm sorry to hear your hammy is acting up and hope that you will be back out on the roads again. In the meantime, I know you are doing all you can and taking care of yourself and saying YES to the little detour in your training!!

    xo

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    1. Aw, thanks Kristen. I LOVE your comments. They are so encouraging. Love yoru words. I think my hammy is already perking up. Just needed me to be smart and back down a bit. Ran 4 miles today and so far so good but I'm not going to talk too soon. ;) NOt jinxing my self this time. :)

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  10. My last couple of years have been truly yucky and I really struggled with them but I've gained so much from going through them. I've gained a new perspective - to not constantly be striving but to relax and take pleasure in the here and now. I can't tell you just how happy feeling normal and healthy has made me. It's something we take for granted until we lose it. But I've had days where I've felt almost euphoric because I feel good. I hope I don't forget any of the lessons I've learnt - the techniques I've used to keep myself going when I felt so down and frustrated. And I really hope I can continue to enjoy the little things.

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    1. Char, from what I can see, you've done such a good job with this trying to be in the here and now. I've seen a heck of a lot of positive twists to your life. Thank you for that. So glad you are feeling good! And you won't forget your lessons! Those are there to last.

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  11. Oh, bummer... silly hamstring. I'm sorry it's acting up. But what a fantastic post. I love your perspective, and especially the last line, that detours ARE life! So true! I'm dreaming big in other areas of life right now too, and in some small way, I think running has given me the confidence to do so.

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    1. Thanks girl! Yeah, this hammy has given me lots of fits but it is responding nicely today. I need some suggestions for compression sleeves for the hammy. Must get on that. Congrats on your race! Yes, dream big!!

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  12. What a welcome message! I find myself saying no all too often, especially to my son. What is it about four year olds that brings out the No Monster in me? I want to say yes to him more. It's such a simple thing.

    I am already doing a good job of saying yes to running when possible, seeing the possible holes in the day and going with it instead of being overly rigid. Last night was a rough one with the baby, and I needed to say yes to sleeping in. It means I ran after the kiddos went to bed, but the run got in, as did family time and a little sleep!

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    1. Oh, I hear you on the monster in us coming out! And yes, this kind of yes ...even then I can say yes more..literally instead of just surrendering to life moments with a yes. :) Good job getting out there Margie.

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  13. Yes! Thank you for the beautifully written post. I needed that tonight- thanks for the inspiration.

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    1. Thanks Erin. Super excited to have found your blog...a fast inspirational mama runner! yay!

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  14. Wonderful post! Saying YES to chilling with whatever life throws at me. It's all going to be great...even with and sometimes because of the detours :)

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  15. You've definitely come to that place I believe so many folks arrive at with age/wisdom. It is something I am learning too as I get older, to be ok "say yes" to what life brings at the moment. Sometimes it is the little parts of life that end up the most important anyway :)

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  16. I love the word "yes"! I often start sentences with it:)

    Great perspective Amanda!

    "make me want to say YES to Life AS IT COMES...not necessarily as I WANT it to come." Love this!!

    Yes, embrace the detours! I am off to embrace one of my detour-2 little beauties who are sitting at my kitchen island eating breakfast:) XO

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  17. Yes! Yes! Yes! Oh I love this posted.

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  18. YES, YES, YES! Life happens and it is how we respond to life and the events that come with it that determine who we really are. We can be positive and adapt, accept change, move forward, grow, embrace, learn, become stronger. Or we can resist, complain, and move nowhere. You are moving mountains with your perspective! So smart, so mature, and such an inspiring example you are to so many.

    Keep on keeping on!

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  19. I'm doing the 29 gifts for 29 days project, so I'm saying yes to a lot of things. And I like it!

    http://www.momshomerun.com

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  20. I'm saying YES to all this suck ass slow MAF miles; they're going to make me wickedly stronger - eventually. As always, I love your thoughts and your positive 'can do' attitude.

    Sorry I've been MIA; I just haven't had time to blog. I read at lunch but can't comment on my phone. Very excited for your marathon and the upcoming big changes for you - it's going to be awesome, just like you!
    xo

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  21. This is such a great post. I love your attitude. I have learned so much from detours that didn't make any sense at all. Hope aqua jogging and swimming aren't all you get to do for too long. Hamstrings take forever and a day to heal, I've learned.

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  22. YES! I love this post. Going through tough times myself, I've been saying YES a lot. YES, it's ok when things go astray in your life plans. YES, it's ok to continue down the path, even though it's a little crooked. And YES it's ok to take a detour. :) This post came at the perfect time for me, thank you!

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  23. Thank you for your kind comment this week...you are so nice.

    Saying yes...to help someone that is easy for me...saying for myself...not always...now the detours..I agree those are our lives...some are good and some are hard...we went thrrough a hard one and I think it is all about attitude...at first mine was CRAPPY and I am not proud of it...but I learned from that...that is a huge part of life for me..learning...always.

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